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Her words not mine. Everybody should read - don't wait until you NEED to read this book :- Jul 09, Mohammad rated it it was amazing As a man, I am always been curious and also frightened to know why women cheat and what I have to do to prevent this happen to me.
I found this fear existed in males for a long time in history and part of INVENTING marriage is due to ensuring that their genes got a chance to pass to next generation. When I was reading this book, my feeling swings between anger, shock, fear, and more importantly understanding. This book really makes sense. The Cheating Pattern is repetitive and it happens all the As a man, I am always been curious and also frightened to know why women cheat and what I have to do to prevent this happen to me.
The Cheating Pattern is repetitive and it happens all the times. Men should be aware of female sexuality and also women themselves. Women enter their sexual prime in their 30's and most cheating happen around that time. Women cheat because they want sex, they want a new experience, their need does not fulfill in marriage and because cheating is exciting. But this creates tremendous pain for their partner. After reading this book you realize it could happen to everyone so be aware and prepared for it.
I learned the worst thing a man could do when he notices his wife is infidel is to try to hold on to marriage desperately.
This repels women more and exacerbates the situation. He should stay strong and integrate and make clear demand that she has to choose either she wants to leave or she wants to work on their relationship.
Men should have other relationships and close friends to rely on, so they do not break down entirely when they are betrayed. I realized it is important for men to be aware of women sexuality, and keep their bedroom exciting as much as it is possible. She believes the feelings she is experiencing are unlike anything she has ever f elt. She is alive again! She thinks she has found her soul mate. She is in love. Actually, she is addicted to the feel-good chemicals that erupt in her body and bathe her brain during the first stages of new love.
She is also in tremendous pain, knowing she must choose between her husband and her new lover. She knows w hat she is doing is wrong and unfair to her husband, but she is unable to end th e affair.
She may try to end it, she may vow this rendezvous is the last, but sh e can't stick to this decision. While she may live in a state of limbo for years , she may also decide to separate from her husband.
Meanwhile, the clueless husb and makes futile attempts to make his wife happy. He is more attentive, spends m ore time at home and helps more with the housework and child care. But the last thing she wants to do right now is spend time with him.
When she tells him she w ants to separate, she will say it's to search for herself. While she convinces h im the marriage can be saved if she can just have some time alone, she really wa nts to loosen the restrictions of marriage so she can spend time with her lover.
Her husband has no idea there is another man on the scene. Stage 4: She either chooses to stay married or she chooses to divorce. If she chooses to stay married: She will probably continue the affair, especiall y if her lover is also married, believing the infidelity can continue indefinite ly without disrupting either partner's primary relationship.
If she chooses to divorce: She will feel relief had having made a decision, but years later will feel guilt and regret for having hurt her husband and children-especially when she begins experiencing the same feelings again for someone new.
A total of 6 1. Escape from problems: the people committed infidelity as a way of escaping from everyday problems, such as work-related problems: "Escape from problems [mainly financial], accumulation of stress", "Various external problems".
Two female participants attributed this factor as a reason for their infidelity. The respondents mentioned "Opportunity", "Occasion". For example: "The relationship was just starting, it was still unstable.
There was a period of physical distance for professional reasons we lived in different cities for a long time ", "Because he travels a lot for work and I stay home alone", "I travel alone, I went out one night and I had drunk a lot".
Regarding this reason, 25 8. The reasons related to the context were the least cited by the participants as reasons for the infidelity In fact, the reason "escape from problems" was only mentioned by two women. In this axis, there was no difference between the men and women in any of the categories. The results show that in considering all loving relationships, men and women are unfaithful to the same extent, evidencing certain changes in relation to the phenomenon in the present times.
Regarding sexual, emotional and virtual behaviors linked to the breach of an exclusivity agreement, the results also revealed that there were few differences between men and women, except for sexual infidelity behavior and virtual sexual infidelity.
In these cases, men showed more behaviors of exchanging sexual caresses and masturbation over the internet when compared to the women. However, in the other 21 sexual, emotional and virtual behaviors, there was no difference between the genders.
Thus, if in the past there was talk of higher rates of sexual infidelity in men and emotional infidelity in women, these data show another scenario where men and women presented similar infidelity behaviors. A closer look at the results of the women reveals that the most frequent infidelity behaviors among women were more subjective and discrete and may sometimes not even have been perceived as infidelity.
However, for men, the behaviors were more explicit, there being more protagonism of the subjects, that is, they could more clearly be considered infidelities, such as kissing, exchanging sexual caresses and flirting, while the women showed greater discretion in their infidelity behaviors, such as wearing nice clothing and hiding certain messages from the partner.
Regarding sexual behavior, the men and women did not complain about the lack of sex in their relationship and did not seek sex in the extramarital relationship.
On the contrary, both men and women revealed that they sought affection, understanding and attention in the extramarital relationship and reported not finding these feelings in their conjugal relationship.
In this way, neither the men and women in this sample had the sexual need or dissatisfaction in their relationship as their main reason for infidelity. Both reported dissatisfaction with the relationship, although the mean of the women for dissatisfaction with the partner or the relationship was higher than that of the men in explaining being unfaithful to the partner.
Considering that the boundaries between infidelity behaviors among men and women are increasingly blurred, the common idea that when men do not find sex at home they seek it elsewhere is out of date. Thus, even if men are satisfied with their sexual life with their partner, they may commit infidelity due to the pursuit of something new, freedom and adventure, and it may even be a way to compensate for affective dissatisfaction in their relationship. Women, in turn, are also motivated by sexual factors such as desire and attraction for the other.
In this sample, both men and women were motivated by factors of dissatisfaction with the relationship and sought affection, understanding and attention, expressing that their partner was not providing satisfactory levels of attention and intimacy.
The infidelity began most frequently between the 2nd and 5th years of cohabitation and decreased throughout the relationship.
In addition, lower levels of marital adjustment were found in those with higher frequencies of infidelity. These results lead to the association between infidelity and the level of maturity that is expressed in the age and in the length of relationship that can decrease the infidelity behavior.
Thus, when couples deepen their level of knowledge, both personal and relational, they may present greater resources to cope with the difficulties of the relationship, which reflects in better levels of marital adjustment.
In this way, it can be thought that infidelity can be used by some as a way to address difficulties in the relationship, such as an escape from problems and seeking satisfaction in another relationship, leading to the idea of infidelity as a symptom of low marital adjustment.
It can be seen that the studies of the 's and 's tended towards a dichotomy between sexual and emotional infidelity and different results for men and women. The current results demonstrate that we are dealing with a phenomenon that encompasses a complexity of behaviors: emotional, virtual and sexual.
However, there is a single phenomenon that is difficult to divide into types. Although men and women do not present identical results, and men stand out for seeking the sexual aspect and reasons related to this, in essence both have motivations linked to dissatisfaction with the relationship and seek both emotional and sexual behaviors.
In this way, perhaps what differentiates the genders is more related to what infidelity represents for each of them. Although the importance of the theme for the marital relationship is perceived, the data indicate that the maj ority of the people did not talk about the topic with their partner and Since infidelity refers to a breach of agreement, and as each couple establishes this agreement, there is scope for the subjectivity of each loving relationship.
Thus, it is important that couples feel encouraged to communicate their desires and expectations in their relationship, because simply choosing an open relationship does not guarantee higher levels of marital satisfaction, according to the results of this study. This work aimed to describe infidelity behaviors for a general Brazilian sample. However, the theme is very exciting and it is worth investigating the experience of infidelity in other samples with specific particularities, such as single people, those in the dating phase and those of different sexual orientations, not with the purpose of knowing the differences, but to investigate the hypothesis that the phenomenon of infidelity is not exclusive to a certain type of conjugal configuration.
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